Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Welcome Back

Hey guys don't be mad at me... I don't want to hear you guys tell me I've been gone for too long because I know that! I could feel it. It hurts my soul not to give you guys something to look forward to! Don't worry because I'm back and this time it's for good!
  I know this may come off as a shock to most of you who do not know me personally, but I am single and recently I've been dating. I'm not going to lie to you all; this stuff is hard as heck. At first it was like scary a little bit, but after a good few weeks I got the hang of things. Now I feel like I should fast forward because I want to share with you guys what I've learned and a bit of what I'm actually going through.
 I know a lot of you ladies out there feel like all guys may be the same but when I tell you that is so false. Listen to me! We got the territorial ones who think "you my boo but, I got a bunch of boos and you cant mess with nobody but me"(aka the ones who got you messed up). Then we have the nonchalant ones. The ones who do date other people but he don't mind if you date other guys too because we're both single so there's not real commitment here to begin with. Now we got the bugga boos. Ughhhh! You guys know the ones who just been waiting for you to be single so they could slide in your DMs or start calling and texting you again just bugging the hell out of you. They don't be meaning any harm but just extra annoying. Now all these guys you're dating and they all cool but you have to deal with all them differently.
  The territorial one you have to let be great but in the same token you have to be different from them other boos he deal with you have to be the one he rather be with, but he knows he cant because you're not always available. Guess what!!? You're not suppose to be. A lot of the times they won't get that but you don't even have to explain to them because they have other boos to tend to anyway. No matter how much you like these guys you always have to do you. Don't give them that control over you. These guys be feeling like they the prize. You have to remind them that they are the winner. They winning if they messing with you!
  So now the nonchalant ones (which are my favs). No but seriously these are the go with the flow ones.  These be the ones with the most potential to be bae; that's just my opinion. you know they're  dating other girls but you cool with that because they don't got to be all in your business and asking about the other guys you're dating. They don't be caring they just be there when its time to do stuff they follow thru with everything, and when you need to talk they there. They real cool. only thing is that a lot of the times they just want to date. and there's nothing wrong with that if you're trying to just date too, but if you're looking for a relationship this is not you're guy. I mean I cant even say that he just really have to be into you. So if you want that to happen make that your goal. Make him want to be with you. Easier said than done, but definitely can be done.
  "Can some one please get this bugga boo away from me"? I'm just kidding. All jokes aside these are the worst kind of guys to date. You give them a chance thinking like "what the hey"! they be good guys too that's the sucky part. they just go over board when it comes to understanding what dating really is. They tend to be annoying with the text and phone calls and the wanting to take pics with you and the hovering and the "you know ive always wanted you"-s . They almost make you not want to date them but you now if you don't at least give them a shot they won't go away, or what happens is they fake fall in love with you and want you to be their girlfriend. You turn them down and they fake hate you and be back again. Basically being the bug you can't seem to kill.
  With that being said and broken down as much as I can without making this any longer than it have to be. When it comes to dating just take it slow as possible so you can fill out a person. Ladies remember to know your worth and don't settle for anything other than what you know you deserve. You are the prize! And guys what kind of guy are you? Make sure you not that bugga boo!

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Hello Love

"That sunlight you didn't want to sneak thru the curtains and wake you, that's the hurt I didn't want to feel. Somedays I wish you felt the hurt I did. I know how selfish and cruel that sounds but sometimes I tend to leave myself behind". 
                                                                                                      -Rameeh S.


  Love is about putting those you love before you. What happens when they forget to remember you? Is that not love anymore? Does your happiness not matter? At this time is it too late to be selfish? 
  I know none of the answers to any of these questions. That scares me the most because I became a victim of ignorance. I know that love is responsible for that. I know that much. 
  I use to think love didn't hurt. But really love does the most. Love hurts, love yells, love cries, love loves, love forgets, love forgives, love remembers, love makes you happy, love makes you sad, love scares you. Love is like it's endless verbs... Simply endless.  
  It's the warmth you get when you feel loved; that relief you feel when you know you're loved. Because love also makes you feel like everything is ok and if it's not now it will be. That's what makes people want love so bad. 
  Everyone wants to feel that. But it's the tough times that people fear that not one person is ever prepared enough for; because no matter how many times you try to catch it, you always seem to miss it. Time is funny like that there's never a right time. Just hard times and easy times but most times are harder than anytime. 
  You honestly never know how much time you have. It simply just happens and sometimes you're too late for love. Once you miss it, you want to know how, what, where, and when things went wrong. But most importantly why you lost love. These times make people not want love. How can you love again when you know that love is capable to hurt. 
  If love is enough for you then it's most certainly worth fighting for. Because in life we never ask for certain things to happen they just do and we just deal with them and the people who don't deal with them either feel like it's not enough or it's not worth it. And if something isn't worth it for you going out your way will make things so pointless and that's not love. It's not pointless. 
  Love changes you. It makes you do everything you didn't know you could do before. It sticks with you. Even when you don't want it to it does, to remind you that it's still there. It's up to you to conquer. Because love is still a beautiful thing.Love is that unwanted sunlight that sneak up on you and wake you. You might not want it to happen but it's simply out of your control.